What are the specific challenges of being in a relationship with someone who suffers from ADHD?

It depends on the person and also the way in which this condition manifests itself in the brain and how the person affected by it is dealing with it.

Thanks to Dr. Daniel Amen (psychiatrist) I found out that there are different types.

His wife also suffered from ADD, but they seem to be happy to be married and quite successful.

So there are certainly ways to remedy it.

It is actually much harder for the person itself, than it is for the partner, because the partner does not have to contend with it.

If the person with AD (H) D takes his/her responsibility and, first of all, is honest that something is going on, and therefore dares to come out and face it, then life with AD (H) D is best.

It is like those who AD (H) D has not been aware of, whether it is left untreated and does not take measures that the influence of this can be disastrous.

One person has it even worse as the other, and that is due to several factors (en.The personality/temperament of the person who has AD (H) D, the education, the environment, the health and the way the person handles it).

It is therefore also difficult to be very specific as every person with AD (H) D is different and also occurs in varying degrees of intensity.

For example, common problems are as follows:

  • Having a language disorder (e.g.

Reading/writing/speaking), calculating disorder, equilibrium disorder, orientation disorder, anxiety disorder/one speaks in medical terms about a.o. Dysfasia, Dysgraphy, Dyscalculia, dyspraxia

  • Inattention (not noticing certain matters-especially details)
  • Scattering (getting things together-e.g.
  • Words, or do not realize or forget that the person BVB. was not with the car, but by bike and therefore their car can not find on the car park, or are mistaken of car on the parking lot)

  • Forgetfulness (forgetting appointments, forgetting messages, moving objects and not knowing where they are lying or not being able to find them, forgetting faces, forgetting names)
  • Easily distracted (whether by experiencing raging thoughts or by inability to focus on one element at a time)
  • Have difficulty hearing, remembering, and following instructions (this may be due to anxiety, nervousness and rush)
  • Concentration problems, difficult projects get finished
  • Undexterity (and difficulty in performing meticulous work due to lack of patience and fine motor skills not optimally developed)
  • Having trouble with plans because one has no insight or has no overview of the priorities (one feels A.H.W. blocked and overwhelmed by what exactly needs to be done without guidance and does not have the ability to work incrementally, Because this is not well developed)
  • Daydreaming (by having a rich imagination)
  • Sensitive to stimuli (light, smell, sound, taste, touches)
  • Impulsiveness (sometimes doing something too quickly, say, think or suppose)
  • Disableness/perfectionism (they can both occur in the same person)
  • Need for stimulation and variation from the environment to perform well (e.g.
  • Radio, TV or various Internet tabs are open while working or studying)

  • Delaying things until the last moment (this is due to a lack of motivation)
  • Have trouble getting on time
  • Having difficulty feeling motivated to do something (so also experiencing difficulty when starting a project or beginning a task)
  • have difficulty getting a task done incrementally (by not realizing what should happen first without guidance or control)
  • have difficulty in cleaning up (and don’t like to do it-this is mostly because the person has too high expectations, wants to do too much at once, or thinks to do and therefore has too little energy)
  • are very often visually set and find it difficult to remember information that is communicated in an auditory manner, without visual guidance as a memory aid (i.e. appointments in a diary that are difficult to memorize because there are no Used-the brain has difficulty storing the written data)
  • are also very often very creative and therefore tend to approach tasks in a chaotic way (so their mind and state of mind can be rather erratic and unpredictable-as is the case with an artistic person; e.g.
  • A painter or writer)

    Mind you, everyone is different.One person can recognise it, while another person has other characteristics.

    Impulsiveness and hyperactivity can be annoying and very burdensome in that they can cause problems in the life of the person with AD (H) D as well as the partner.

    For example, it can be difficult to keep up with the Finances, or to realise, to see or remember how much has already been spent, and whether an account has already been paid.

    It can also be difficult to Orient themselves and find the right street or to get somewhere on time, because it takes a lot of time to find out how to get exactly the best from point A to point B.

    A person may also experience difficulty in correctly Orient themselves in a building with many corridors.

    There are still such phenomena, but there are too many to mention.

    Important Nota s:

    ADD is different from BPS (Borderline personality disorder) and bipolarity (yet another disorder), the characteristics and symptoms of each condition can sometimes resemble one another, but are still different

    Someone with ADD can experience violent emotions, but this is because they possess a sensitive nervous system that gets easily stimulated.

    The intensity therefore draws away, as soon as the stimuli causing the holiness are minimized.

    In a person with BPS, the intensity is constantly present-day after day.Here lies the problem with the emotions and not so much with irritations from the environment.

    All three conditions can be present in one person.

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