How do you cope with choice stress?

Your and my life is full of decisions and making choices. From small like what shoes we are doing today, to big as if we want children.

Sometimes we make these choices easily and we quickly know what we want, sometimes these choices are difficult and we doubt long or do not allow us to make a choice.

Imagine you want to go on vacation. And it seems you are interesting to rent a house on the ocean for some walking, good food, and some places to visit.But which holiday house do you choose? How much budget do you provide? And are you going to France, Portugal or anywhere else?When these kinds of questions arise, there are two types of people.

The first category is for the best holiday home.

When you belong to this category, you feel that there is a dwelling somewhere that exceeds all your expectations. In the perfect location, at the perfect price, with the perfect pool. It takes your days to search. You view all possible holiday homes on every possible website. You often look at it but don’t give up, you know that the holiday home exists and that you will find it.And it still works very often!

Recognizable?Then the American researcher Barry Schwarz (author of the Paradox of Choice) calls you a 鈧?虄maximizer 鈧?虄, or someone who is picky looking for the very best.A maximizer goes for perfection: making the best choice after weighing all the options. As a result, maximizers often make the best choices. They overlook all the options, know all the pros and cons and know exactly where they say yes.

But that 鈧?虄best Keuze of the Maximizers asks sacrifice. It takes time, energy and delivers a lot of doubt and frustration. Maximizers experience more stress and are often less happy with their choice, because they know exactly what they could have done in a different place.In fact: often a maximizer chooses but not. The number of options is so big that it paralyates you. Rather not a holiday home than the wrong holiday home.

Or are you in the other category, which Barry Schwarz calls the “satisficers“?Where maximizers can sometimes wander around the city for an hour in search of the best terrace, you will be able to enjoy your coffee after a few minutes as satisficer.

Satisficers have in advance about clear what their choice must meet 鈧?”and as soon as they have found an option that satisfies them (a holiday home by the sea, a terrace in the sun) it is good.The Satisficer can live well with the idea that there is somewhere else a nicer holiday home or a radder terrace. Satisficers appear to be more relaxed, to experience more happiness and to be able to enjoy their choice afterwards. As a satisficer you go for 鈧?虄good鈩? That doesn’t mean you’re going for a lower standard, but you’re protecting yourself from trying to maximize each result.

The irony is that 鈧?虄maximisen does not lead to the optimal result: too much attention to maximizing your choices can ultimately be at the expense of your time, health and happiness.

The perfect job?
Another example in which this plays is to find a job and how happy you are with your choice.Sheena Iyengar, Rachael E. Wells and Barry Schwartz investigated in the PAS graduates how happy they were with their first job and whether they were a maximizer or satisficer when choosing them.

Overall, the maximizers were less satisfied, unhappier, and more stressed 鈧?”despite the fact that they earned an average of 7,430 dollars a year more than the satisficers.They had diligently searched for the very best option, taking into account many more factors such as social norms and the input of family and Collega s. Most of them were not only looking for the best option, but also to the best way to improve their situation. Even after getting their job, the Maximizers continued to fixate on alternatives other than the ones they had chosen and wished they had checked even more options.

According to researcher Iyengar, this dissatisfaction is a result of the fact that they cling so hard to their goal of finding the very best.She explains: “people who had actually forgotten what they wanted in September believed that the job they were given was the job they had always wanted.They were the lucky ones. The implication is that happiness does not originate from getting what you want, but from wanting what you get. 鈧?p>

The problem is that we are not very good at predicting what will make us happy in the future.So sticking to your idea of perfect, long-cherished goals can have a counterproductive effect.

鈧?虄Satisficing makes it possible to set priorities
If you’re so busy maximizing your life, it’s easy to lose sight of what’s really important. As the research star Bren茫 漏 Brown discovered in studying the risks s of perfectionism: “healthy pursuit is about striving for internal goals… perfectionism is about what people will denken 鈧? “This distinction between internal and external efforts is central. 鈧?p>

Consider how the Maximizers in Iyengar s study, which achieved objectively better results in terms of wages, were nevertheless less satisfied.And when the psychologists of the University of Rochester followed the trajectory of 147 graduates, they discovered that people who had inner, intrinsic aspirations, such as community engagement, personal growth and dense relationships, eventually Were happier than people with extrinsic aspirations such as chasing money, fame and image.

So if you tend to maximize, then strive for goals and motivations that from the inside come. Take a satisficing attitude and try to find 鈧?虄goed also 鈧?虄good鈩?/b> .

You can even combinethe two.Determine your conditions like a maximizer that would, so ambitious and with a high standard.And then say 鈧?虄Yes as a Satisficer: at the first option that satisfies it. This way you not only make the best choices, but you are still happy with it as well.

For more rest in your head and more life happiness: don’t always strive for the very best, but stop searching as soon as you encounter something that’s fine. This also applies to performance: Try to stop cleaning, working and organizing once you have reached an acceptable level.

When can you (w脙 漏 l al) Satisficen?
In which areas do you manage to be satisfied before?When cleaning the kitchen sink for example; Wrapping your holiday valies; Less important work tasks?

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